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Are
you fearless?
Most people are unaware of how fearless they truly are. Because of that,
we walk around believing we aren't as wonderful as we are. We doubt
our growth. We downplay our kindness. We forget the times we've forgiven,
let go and loved. We don't remember who we are.
In a Fearless World, we remember. We know it takes courage each day
to wake up and be true to our essential nature (especially during these
troubled times). We do it anyway.
We dedicate ourselves to that practice and no longer look to others
to define us but define ourselves in heart-felt conversations, boundary
setting scenarios and in the present moment. We take the credo 'Live
the Life your Soul Intended™' seriously.
We put our dreams, visions and intuition into action. Our words and
actions match. We are proud to be a human being even if it looks a little
messy, or we do.
No longer do we fear loss or shame or rejection. Other peoples opinions
don't weigh us down or decide our fate. We are 'for' something, never
'against.' We understand the deeper meaning behind the words: to thine
own self be true.
We have come to know that being who we are is truly a gift. And the
only way we can share that gift is by honoring all of us. Not just some
parts but all parts. We get it, finally, that being fearless means saying
'yes' to ourselves.
Who lives in a Fearless World? Me and you. Let's uncover it together.
Read more from Rhonda Britten
A
home full of friends and laughter
I haven't spent much time on my writing lately. My home has been full
of friends and family, love and laughter. What else is there? This is
all I can wish for and all I care about. Hugging, eating and drinking
with loved ones. I have it all. There are homes you run to and those
you run from. Make yours a caring and homely place for friends and family.
When you open your heart and your home to others, only goodness enters.
The gentle people are all around you if you look carefully.
But as you encounter these troubled times, it may of course be difficult to concentrate on the goodness in your life and the possibilities yet to be revealed. Trust in the future; things will get better and this is a transition time full of the unknown. Seek good legal representation and walk tall.
As our friend, the Barefoot Doctor, says in his
latest article ,
'Don't
let your focus be pulled towards the ugly;
It’s too easy to allow your focus to be pulled towards the ugly.
Yet the soul naturally craves beauty, beauty in all possible forms of
expression, whether in people, nature, things, or events...'
Happy
Valentine's Day
Being truthful and ready
Dating requires you to be true to yourself. The truer you are, the better
it works on every level. But dating is not to be recommended to everyone
especially when you are just starting the divorce or separation process.
If you are in the midst of trauma, then you probably will not be ready
to meet the opposite sex again despite what friends may say. Be true
to yourself and acknowledge that you are certainly not going to be at
your best and may therefore attract someone looking for vulnerability.
Facing special times for the first time like Valentine's Day or an anniversary
without your loved one can be very difficult and a diversion could help
you. Invite a friend round for supper and a film. Perhaps a comedy?
Do something that is positive or you may regret spending the evening
on your own. If you are caring for children, maybe they would like to
make their own Valentine cards with you?
Roses
I hear that Tesco's are selling bunches of red roses quite cheaply.
If there are any left, I shall grab them as I don't think the postman's
bag will be overflowing with Valentines for me; for son and daughter
perhaps. Maybe this year it will be worth buying your own flowers as
a memento of past love and happier times. You were once loved, once
called beloved and you can feel that again if you are open to love in
the future. Look forward to it.
Having fun
You may not feel like dating this Valentine's Day. When you are ready
to date again, you will know when the time is right. Dating can make
you more confident, loving, joyous, and relaxed. It makes you more fun
to be around and more appreciative of the people around you. Entering
the dating scene again after a long absence can be a very daunting task
but exciting too. Set your personal boundaries and keep to them. Be
truthful about yourself and look to the future. No-one wants you to
talk constantly about your ex. Prepare yourself well and think of some
good points about yourself and future plans and hobbies.
Am I ready to date again?
Perhaps a good way to answer this frequently asked question is to examine
the following quote by Oscar Wilde.
'To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.'
We wish you a Happy Valentine's Day.
Think of a kiss
You can give your heart an inspiring flutter with a single pleasant
memory. Recall that delicious moment when you kissed someone - on an
impulse - and suddenly realised that someone else loved you as much
as you loved them. It's only a thought but it always weaves magic.
From The little book of hope by Paul Wilson
More info
You can read about dating again at Dating
after divorce and the book 'Fearless Loving' should provide a good
start. It is in our Books section
together with Mars and Venus Single Again .