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We receive many thanks and comments from people all over the world experiencing their worst times and give some examples below. If you would like to provide your comments, please use this email link: Divorce Aid Comments . Please note that this link may not be used for correspondence other than feedback.

Thank you Christina for these kind words – its appreciated, Michael, Cork

thanks for your help again ,Colin Wible has replied to me.
you have been a big star. cheers (from Chile)

First of all thank you very much for offering this free help and advice to people that like me are feeling hurt and lost in dissappointment. This is my case: I'm originally from Venezuela ...
I want to thank you for your help and to pass on my thanks to Jeremy, he was very helpful and clear.
Best wishes

Thank you so much for your replies - they mean a lot to me even though I dont know who you are ! Somehow its easier !!!

Thank you so so much! I will tell him that you mentioned him to me if that's ok with you.
If I could ever meet you I'd give you a big box of chocolates and a bunch of flowers. You've been brilliant.
Many thanks and best regards, Rachael

Thank you very much, this has been of help. This is really a wonderful service you offer, thank you very, very much. Charles.
(re international jurisdictions)

just wanted to take a minute to say thank you for the work you have done for me to date. It seems strange that someone who i have never met is spending their time helping out a perfect stranger (like me!) but thank you, your help means a lot. Michael

Many, many thanks for this - a very great help indeed. Hopefully, all will go well and I'll be free before the end of the year. Can't thank you enough for your time and support. Kind regards , W

I can't thank you enough for your help and such prompt advice. I really appreciate this referral especially during this very difficult time. This is a great service. I'm so glad I found this web site. Thank you again. (Canada)

It is so encouraging and a great comfort to know that there really are nice people out there - especially at this awful time for my lovely son. thank you.

I contacted the Israeli law firm you reccomended and already received an encouraging message from them.

thanks for your help
I have spoken to Jeremy this evening and have received some good advice, action steps and time frame. This has helped immensely and has taken away some of the worries. Thank you and Jeremy once again.

Thank you so very much Christina - Fiona has called me and I hope to speak more in depth with her on Friday.
I cannot tell you how much I appreciate this! 
Kindest Regards

Thank you for your very quick response time, even on Sunday evening…J

Many Many thanks on this one at this stress full time…

Hello I've been relieved to find your web site

I have just found your website and I am that person who does not know where to turn or what to do next. Please can you help me?
Yes, of course, we help anyone who asks via email.

May God bless the work that you do , with grateful thanks for your much needed support.

thanks again for your support

Thank you for responding so soon. I have started to gather all paper work together as advised on your site and doing a check list. Its so hard and I cant describe the pain I feel. Thank you for being someone to talk to.

I can't thank you enough for all your assistance and help.

I have read through all the information on your site with great interest and it has been of valued assistance.

There’s something for everyone with a personal or professional
interest in separation and divorce at Part
no-nonsense repository of practical information, advice, news
and support for adults, children and teenagers, part new-agey
melange of quotes, pictures, audio links to soothing sounds and
advice from the Barefoot Doctor... this user-friendly, colourful
site has lots of links to many other websites and help-lines as
well as a large archive of news articles and features.
Scotland has its own section on the legal pages, with links
to CAB, Family Mediation, Stepfamily Scotland and other
agencies. A dedicated Mediation section explains the process,
albeit promoting specific private mediation companies.
The site has a team of regular contributors including lawyers, mediators, psychotherapists, psychologists, social
workers and a GP and includes reflections from people who have gone through separation and divorce.

In Divorce Aid’s own words: “From small beginnings in 1999, Divorce Aid now helps thousands of people across the
UK and internationally every week. Our motto is: ‘Whatever your situation and wherever you are, we hope to provide
divorce advice, support and information on any matter concerning you.’ Experts from the legal and therapy professions
enable us to provide this service by volunteering their time. The welfare of the child is paramount and we promote
mediation and counselling as well as good, professional legal advice. We also promote collaborative family law as a
new dignified approach to divorce,” Relationship Scotland, a merger between Relate Scotland and Family Mediation Scotland.

Once again, thank you very much.  I’m extremely impressed by your concern and service. Vicky

First off, thanks for giving me this advice/your time, its superb help.

I stumbled across your site and have been greatly relieved at the clarity of information that you offer - thank you.
I am a therapist and will certainly use the information for my clients who are going through a major life shock - separation and divorce.
I will certainly recommend your site to my colleagues.
thank you once again. Thomas

Without him (Jeremy Ferguson), I would have really struggled to get forms in, so many. thanks to you both again.

I thought you might like to know that an acquaintance was talking to me about divorce this weekend and I suggested looking at your website. She said she'd already done so and found it immensely useful.

thank you thank you thank you

Thanks again. Your Organisation is such a strength and a blessing. I would love to work for you, one day !

I just wanted to say thank you for all your support and your advice and recomendation.
I'd like you to know that for the timebeing we are communicating, talking and considering counselling as we still love each other and will take small but steady steps towards rebuilding our relationship.
Thank you again for listening.
All the best and certainly this is a great "place" for people to come to when they need it!
Thanks for being there!

Thank you very much for forwarding the helpful leaflets for my children. You have been very kind and helpful as I have tried to keep myself together. Ian

I met with JM for an initial £50.00/half hour meeting. She was very helpful, and we managed to cover a tremendous amount in the time. Her advice was clear and relevant, and I would certainly recommend the practice. As a result of the meeting we will probably not be going the collaborative law route, as this does not appear to be the most cost effective option for us. We will rely on mediation instead. Mrs M was also able to put me in touch with various other professionals who will be able to assist and guide me through specific aspects of the process.

Thanks again for your support.

Kind regards

We have found your website to be interesting and informative. As such, we are writing to inform you that we have included your website address for reference in our resources page as additional information on the issue of divorce.
Family & Juvenile Justice Centre, Subcourts, Singapore

When I was suffering your site was a lifeline to me.

I am a clinical psychologist working in Early Intervention for children and families and divorce and separation is something I come across frequently. I thought your website was fantastic with lots of helpful information and the downloadable leaflets are an excellent resource.
(See Leaflets for parents)

I hope you appreciate how much it means to me to have been able to unburden myself. I can only imagine some of the emails you must get. What you do and your sympathetic yet practical approach helps to restore the breath to our mouths and the earth beneath our feet as we look to the future. What can I say but THANK YOU!
Will let you know how it all goes - kind regards - no - sincere admiration and gratitude for being in the ether! for being there!

I am so pleased I contacted you on behalf of my brother. I shall sleep better tonight. Thank you so much for all your help.

Thank you for your help.
I will keep you informed of progress
God Bless you
You have been a source of hope for me in this difficult and frustrating time. H

Hi. I love the website;-) its very informative and the emotions you feel are well covered.
Thank you.

May I first say how helpful I have found your website during the past 2 years when I have been going through a very traumatic and appalling divorce. In fact I would say it is the best website I have found on the matter!

You have been very kind and have given me more information than anyone else in the last 4 years.

Thanks you've been great

When I was suffering, your site was a lifeline to me

Many thanks for your help in locating a local solicitor for me. I have spoken to him on the phone (mentioning Divorceaid naturally!) and am
meeting with him on Monday. I would just like to say thanks for your website; during a very painful
time such as this, it provides not only useful information but much needed support. I know its a cliché, but keep up the good work!

Hi. Thanks for your excellent, reassuring, supportive website. A real godsend.

I appreciate your quick email turnaround.

Thanks again for your support

It is a great website. To have a human side to the web pages is
very comforting. Thanks again and kindest of regards, Mark.

Bless your heart for taking time to reply to my questions and then follow up to make sure I got the info. I went to the link you gave me and found some information on there that has eased my mind somewhat. According to that website, I can file from Canada (which was a major concern of mine) and because we have been apart for quite some time, I don't have a waiting period to get through. I have called a local family law lawyer to help me with this.
You were right about everything and I wanted to let you know that just by answering my email and helping as much as possible, you've made my day. You were the only one to reply to my email. Thank you so very much. Have a wonderful day. Jennifer

Many thanks for your time with this. I have received an email from the solicitor and Agnes will be getting in touch with them very soon, hopefully with good results. Being in her predicament, Agnes has had few places to turn and your help and advice has been invaluable. It's very much appreciated. (Re France)

I would like to say a big thank you. God bless

I have spoken to several international lawyers in USA but none were able to provide the simplified information that Divorce Aid did. Thank you so much.

Thanks very much for the information, I really appreciate your efficiency.

I started reading your website 3 hrs ago convinced that I was ready to tackle divorcing my husband who left me 10 months ago for another woman. Your section on emotions has made me realise that although there is no chance of reconciliation for us, my emotions are still running way to high for me to cope. The hatred and anger sections are spot on and it's good to realise that I am not alone in feeling this way. I am in the early stages of my first new relationship and just beginning to realise that I may love again and not all men are the same. Thank you for making me realise that there is life after a breakup and that I am not completely to blame.

Once again Mrs Jones has hit the very big nail on it's very big head!!!! I could substitute my name into every single one of her "thoughts" they are so like mine - therefore reading them helps me and makes me realise that there are many other people who are in the same boat as me...thank you for being there

Many thanks - I appreciate your help. I did not know where to start otherwise. (Re international enquiry).

You are a STAR. I am usually able to focus on work and on others' needs and then -as you say- a sudden shock brings everything to the fore.
My new solicitor is brilliant- she's really on the case and your voluntary solicitor I talked to was also excellent and a great help. I always worry as a professional that I provide a quality service and you trust others to do the same. After talking to the two solicitors you recommended I can't believe how much extra knowledge of proceedings I have. I am recommending you to everyone.

I really appreciate having you lot to talk to!!!!

I have written to you once before and I received a lovely e mail back. I read the website nearly every day as so much of it mirrors my own experiences so I really appreciate reading everything.

I would like to congratulate you on providing this fantastic service to people going through one of the most painful experiences in life.

I came across your website after reading an article in a magazine and have just spent the last couple hours reading through it, and I feel alot happier knowing that I'm not the only one in the world feeling like I do and feeling so lonely and having angry teenagers to deal with. I hope one day to have happiness again and your site has helped immensely. Denise

During my research I have come across your website and have found it a great resource for my clients - I always direct them there.

Many thanks for yet again a quick response to my email. I will ring Jeremy tonight and run through it with him again. The help you have given is very much appreciated.

Thanks so much for this, you and the divorceaid website have been very supportive at a very difficult time.

Any other advice gratefully accepted! Thanks for such
a brilliant site too!

I came across your site completely by chance, or at least Google did. Having spent the last few hours reading more-or-less the complete contents, I have to admit that of all the sites I’ve consulted your site, more so than any other, presents a genuinely unbiased bipartisan perspective.

This in my experience is more than I can say for the British legal system. Nevertheless, your site has convinced me that expediency through compromise is a more productive route than my current strategy of hang the legal expense “you” can rot in hell before I agree to that! Keep up the good work.

I found your site as a link from the Samaritan's Web Site. Why was I on the Samaritans site? Looking for some hope as I travel through the darkness of separation and divorce. I was so moved after reading your "Divorce Thoughts" that I wanted to register with your site. So much of the "Thoughts" were true for me too.
I am lucky with my support and that's why I am planning to do something positive to help others because I truly know how desperate those long dark nights can be.

Wow! Thank you so much for your wonderful help!!!
This is more than helpful, and you have been absolutely wonderful! Thank you very much!

Thank you so much again - just knowing that Divorce Aid exists is a real help in itself.

Thank you so much for your replies to me - it helps me feel connected with the universe! Despite the support I do have, I still feel as though I need to 'pinch myself' - I think I am still in a state of disbelief and shock inside.
I never had the slightest idea just how traumatic this process is.
Best wishes

Hi there, my name's Angela and I have been in contact with your office before with regard to leaving my abusive spouse. You helped me find a wonderful solicitor and provided a wealth of easily understandable information on your site and through very personal and encouraging emails.

I just wanted to let you know that things are now going well. Although it's obviously not completed yet, I feel that the hardest part is over and we're nearly there! With the support of my wonderful legal team and your unmatched clear information and support I feel that this has gone as well as possible with the minimum amount of upset to myself and my children. I wanted to personally and finally thank you for everything, and may many other people value your support as much as my family and I have.

Very kindest regards
and best wishes for your future

PS I am currently selling my wedding dress on eBay and will be forwarding the sale amount to you! (it's currently £52 lol) seems only right and quite an amusing way to raise funds for your site!!!!

Thank you so much for the web site. It has given me great comfort and strength to go on. Anon.

Thank you for your reply. I am pleased to tell you that we have managed to talk through the problems and difficulties we were experiencing and realised that divorce is not an option either of us wanted, especially with much loved children to consider. M

I was listening to BBC Radio 2 last night in the dark and a song was requested by one of your volunteers. I wrote the name down and searched this morning and found you straight away on Yahoo Search.

Thanks for all your help - by the way the website is fantastic and has been a great help to me over the past 8 months - here's hoping to things working out okay from here.

You are just a mine of information. I am extremely grateful for all your help &would like to make a donation to your cause. F

Thanks you so much for helping us with our son's problems. He feels much better and sends his thanks via us, his worried parents. Thank you all for caring when we had no-one to turn to.

You are being a wonderful help and at the end of the day comfort does matter.

Your reply has put a lump in my throat for 2 reasons , firstly because I never expected a reply and if I was getting one it would a standard type of letter acknowledgement, I simply recognised that your office must be too busy to give it a personal reply, I know you are busy but I'm so pleased you did. its appreciated . it has done me the world of good , thank you very much

Thanks to the site info I have in place a family law solicitor now sorting that side of things out.

I will get there.

All the very best.

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