We receive many thanks and comments from people all over the world experiencing their worst times and give some examples below. If you would like to provide your comments, please use this email link: Divorce Aid Comments . Please note that this link may not be used for correspondence other than feedback.
Thank you Christina for these kind words – its appreciated, Michael, Cork
thanks for your help again ,Colin Wible has replied to me.
you have been a big star. cheers (from Chile)
First of all thank you very much for offering this free help and advice to people that like me are feeling hurt and lost in dissappointment. This is my case: I'm originally from Venezuela ...
I want to thank you for your help and to pass on my thanks to Jeremy, he was very helpful and clear.
Thank you so much for your replies - they mean a lot to me even though I dont know who you are ! Somehow its easier !!!
Thank you so so much! I will tell him that you mentioned him to me if that's ok with you.
If I could ever meet you I'd give you a big box of chocolates and a bunch of flowers. You've been brilliant.
Many thanks and best regards, Rachael
Thank you very much, this has been of help. This is really a wonderful service you offer, thank you very, very much. Charles.
(re international jurisdictions)
just wanted to take a minute to say thank you for the work you have done for me to date. It seems strange that someone who i have never met is spending their time helping out a perfect stranger (like me!) but thank you, your help means a lot. Michael
Many, many thanks for this - a very great help indeed. Hopefully, all will go well and I'll be free before the end of the year. Can't thank you enough for your time and support. Kind regards , W
I can't thank you enough for your help and such prompt advice. I really appreciate this referral especially during this very difficult time. This is a great service. I'm so glad I found this web site. Thank you again .
It is so encouraging and a great comfort to know that there really are nice people out there - especially at this awful time for my lovely son. thank you.
I contacted the Israeli law firm you reccomended and already received an encouraging message from them.
thanks for your help
I have spoken to Jeremy this evening and have received some good advice, action steps and time frame. This has helped immensely and has taken away some of the worries. Thank you and Jeremy once again.
Thank you for your very quick response time, even on Sunday evening…J
Many Many thanks on this one at this stress full time…
Hello I've been relieved to find your web site
I have just found your website and I am that person who does not know where to turn or what to do next. Please can you help me?
Yes, of course, we help anyone who asks via email.
May God bless the work that you do , with grateful thanks for your much needed support.
thanks again for your support
Thank you for responding so soon. I have started to gather all paper work together as advised on your site and doing a check list. Its so hard and I cant describe the pain I feel. Thank you for being someone to talk to.
I can't thank you enough for all your assistance and help.
I have read through all the information on your site with great interest and it has been of valued assistance.
There’s something for everyone with a personal or professional
interest in separation and divorce at www.divorceaid.co.uk. Part
no-nonsense repository of practical information, advice, news
and support for adults, children and teenagers, part new-agey
melange of quotes, pictures, audio links to soothing sounds and
advice from the Barefoot Doctor... this user-friendly, colourful
site has lots of links to many other websites and help-lines as
well as a large archive of news articles and features.
Scotland has its own section on the legal pages, with links
to CAB, Family Mediation, Stepfamily Scotland and other
agencies. A dedicated Mediation section explains the process,
albeit promoting specific private mediation companies.
The site has a team of regular contributors including lawyers, mediators, psychotherapists, psychologists, social
workers and a GP and includes reflections from people who have gone through separation and divorce.
In Divorce Aid’s own words: “From small beginnings in 1999, Divorce Aid now helps thousands of people across the
UK and internationally every week. Our motto is: ‘Whatever your situation and wherever you are, we hope to provide
divorce advice, support and information on any matter concerning you.’ Experts from the legal and therapy professions
enable us to provide this service by volunteering their time. The welfare of the child is paramount and we promote
mediation and counselling as well as good, professional legal advice. We also promote collaborative family law as a
new dignified approach to divorce,” Relationship Scotland, a merger between Relate Scotland and Family Mediation Scotland.
Once again, thank you very much. I’m extremely impressed by your concern and service. Vicky
First off, thanks for giving me this advice/your time, its superb help.
I stumbled across your site and have been greatly relieved at the clarity of information that you offer - thank you.
I am a therapist and will certainly use the information for my clients who are going through a major life shock - separation and divorce.
I will certainly recommend your site to my colleagues.
thank you once again. Thomas
Without him (Jeremy Ferguson), I would have really struggled to get forms in, so many. thanks to you both again.
I thought you might like to know that an acquaintance was talking to me about divorce this weekend and I suggested looking at your website. She said she'd already done so and found it immensely useful. Mary
thank you thank you thank you
Thanks again. Your Organisation is such a strength and a blessing. I would love to work for you, one day !
I just wanted to say thank you for all your
support and your advice and recomendation.
I'd like you to know that for the timebeing we are communicating, talking and considering counselling as we still love each other and will take small but steady steps towards rebuilding our relationship.
Thank you again for listening.
All the best and certainly this is a great "place" for people to come to when they need it!
Thanks for being there! Helen
Thank you very much for forwarding the helpful leaflets for my children. You have been very kind and helpful as I have tried to keep myself together. Ian
I met with JM for an initial £50.00/half hour meeting. She was very helpful, and we managed to cover a tremendous amount in the time. Her advice was clear and relevant, and I would certainly recommend the practice. As a result of the meeting we will probably not be going the collaborative law route, as this does not appear to be the most cost effective option for us. We will rely on mediation instead. Mrs M was also able to put me in touch with various other professionals who will be able to assist and guide me through specific aspects of the process.
Thanks again for your support.
We have found your website to be interesting and informative. As such, we are writing to inform you that we have included your website address for reference in our resources page as additional information on the issue of divorce.
Family & Juvenile Justice Centre, Subcourts, Singapore
When I was suffering your site was a lifeline to me.
I am a clinical psychologist working in Early Intervention for children and families and divorce and separation is something I come across frequently. I thought your website was fantastic with lots of helpful information and the downloadable leaflets are an excellent resource.
(See Leaflets for parents)
I hope you appreciate how much it means to me
to have been able to unburden myself. I can only imagine some of the
emails you must get. What you do and your sympathetic yet practical
approach helps to restore the breath to our mouths and the earth beneath
our feet as we look to the future. What can I say but THANK YOU!
Will let you know how it all goes - kind regards - no - sincere admiration and gratitude for being in the ether! for being there!
I am so pleased I contacted you on behalf of my brother. I shall sleep better tonight. Thank you so much for all your help.
Thank you for your help.
I will keep you informed of progress
God Bless you
You have been a source of hope for me in this difficult and frustrating time. H
Hi. I love the website;-) its very informative and the emotions you feel are well covered.
May I first say how helpful I have found your website during the past 2 years when I have been going through a very traumatic and appalling divorce. In fact I would say it is the best website I have found on the matter!
You have been very kind and have given me more information than anyone else in the last 4 years.
Thanks you've been great
When I was suffering, your site was a lifeline to me
Many thanks for your help in locating a local solicitor for me. I have spoken to him on the phone (mentioning Divorceaid naturally!) and am
meeting with him on Monday. I would just like to say thanks for your website; during a very painful
time such as this, it provides not only useful information but much needed support. I know its a cliché, but keep up the good work!
Hi. Thanks for your excellent, reassuring, supportive website. A real godsend.
I appreciate your quick email turnaround.
Thanks again for your support
It is a great website. To have a human side to the web pages is
very comforting. Thanks again and kindest of regards, Mark.
Bless your heart for taking time to reply to my questions and then follow up to make sure I got the info. I went to the link you gave me and found some information on there that has eased my mind somewhat. According to that website, I can file from Canada (which was a major concern of mine) and because we have been apart for quite some time, I don't have a waiting period to get through. I have called a local family law lawyer to help me with this.
You were right about everything and I wanted to let you know that just by answering my email and helping as much as possible, you've made my day. You were the only one to reply to my email. Thank you so very much. Have a wonderful day. Jennifer
Many thanks for your time with this. I have received an email from the solicitor and Agnes will be getting in touch with them very soon, hopefully with good results. Being in her predicament, Agnes has had few places to turn and your help and advice has been invaluable. It's very much appreciated. (Re France)
I would like to say a big thank you. God bless
I have spoken to several international lawyers in USA but none were able to provide the simplified information that Divorce Aid did. Thank you so much.
Thanks very much for the information, I really appreciate your efficiency.
I started reading your website 3 hrs ago convinced that I was ready to tackle divorcing my husband who left me 10 months ago for another woman. Your section on emotions has made me realise that although there is no chance of reconciliation for us, my emotions are still running way to high for me to cope. The hatred and anger sections are spot on and it's good to realise that I am not alone in feeling this way. I am in the early stages of my first new relationship and just beginning to realise that I may love again and not all men are the same. Thank you for making me realise that there is life after a breakup and that I am not completely to blame.
Once again Mrs Jones has hit the very big nail on it's very big head!!!! I could substitute my name into every single one of her "thoughts" they are so like mine - therefore reading them helps me and makes me realise that there are many other people who are in the same boat as me...thank you for being there.
Many thanks - I appreciate your help. I did not know where to start otherwise. (Re international enquiry).
You are a STAR. I am usually able to focus on work and on others' needs
and then -as you say- a sudden shock brings everything to the fore.
My new solicitor is brilliant- she's really on the case and your voluntary solicitor I talked to was also excellent and a great help. I always worry as a professional that I provide a quality service and you trust others to do the same. After talking to the two solicitors you recommended I can't believe how much extra knowledge of proceedings I have. I am recommending you to everyone.
I really appreciate having
you lot to talk to!!!!
I have written to you once before and I received a lovely e mail back. I read the website nearly every day as so much of it mirrors my own experiences so I really appreciate reading everything.
I would like to congratulate you on providing this fantastic service to people going through one of the most painful experiences in life.
I came across your website after reading an article
in a magazine and have just spent the last couple hours reading through
it, and I feel alot happier knowing that I'm not the only one in the
world feeling like I do and feeling so lonely and having angry teenagers
to deal with. I hope one day to have happiness again and your site has
helped immensely. Denise
During my research I have come across your website and have found it a great resource for my clients - I always direct them there.
Many thanks for yet again a quick response to my email. I will ring Jeremy tonight and run through it with him again. The help you have given is very much appreciated.
Thanks so much for this, you and the divorceaid website have been very supportive at a very difficult time.
Any other advice gratefully
accepted! Thanks for such
a brilliant site too!
I came across your site completely by chance, or at least Google did. Having spent the last few hours reading more-or-less the complete contents, I have to admit that of all the sites I’ve consulted your site, more so than any other, presents a genuinely unbiased bipartisan perspective.
This in my experience is more than I can say for the British legal system. Nevertheless, your site has convinced me that expediency through compromise is a more productive route than my current strategy of hang the legal expense “you” can rot in hell before I agree to that! Keep up the good work.
I think your website is great and only wish the internet had been available 20 years ago.
I am now 32years of age and only just beginning to deal with my parents divorce of when I was 11 years old (wasn't really able to deal with it at the time, just suppressed everything)...
I've just found your website and am impressed.
Thanks for this. And many thanks for your help too. It was reassuring to know that there is somewhere these people could go to where all their enquiries and worries would be answered.
I have had a look at your site
and think it is admirable.
Firstly congratulations on a fantastic website; it's extremely informative.
Thank you for all your support. I can certainly assure you it is
reciprocal - I regularly mention the Divorce Aid site to enquirers because it is such an excellent resource.
I have had a look at your website
which is very interesting and
I recently contacted you with regard to leaving my violent husband and I wanted to thank you for all of the help, information and support I have received from you and your site.
I have managed to start my new life and it's wonderful, my only regret is that I didn't find it sooner but we live and learn.
I check back to your site on a weekly basis and reread the information as it clarifies things immensely. Once again thank you for everything.
Today I visited your website. I think a divorce aid website is a really good initiative, especially since it can be very hard to maintain a good view of what's important when a person is overwhelmed by all the emotion that a divorce can bring.
Thank you. Your information has been invaluable
I am very impressed by the informative and value added way in which your website has been put together...
I would just like to thank you most sincerely for
the name of the
Solicitors you sent me. A Solicitor has dealt with me and I can not
speak highly enough of him. It is no exaggeration to say in my initial appointment he achieved more in 1 hour than my previous Solicitor did in 6 mths.
I'm just so pleased I could finally trust a Solicitor to act in my best
interests and take the pressure off me.
He was able to settle the financial dispute in less than a week
and so doing, avoiding the pending 3 day trial that had been booked which I feel a tribute to his professional skills.
Thank you very much for your
valued advice... Once again, thank you very much for your response.
You have a fantastic
website and I feel stronger with the knowledge I have gained.
G from Edinburgh
I can only say THANK YOU or MERCI as I did not know what to do next and you have been both very efficient and helpful in answering my questions. (Re French case)
I have had a very bad day, must
be all the excitement, conversing with people who really care. I cannot
thank you enough you have really given me a reason to go forward and
believe me I never thought anyone could have given me such a boost.
Speak to you soon.
I am really impressed by the
quality of information provided
on the site.
I have found your website very
Yours is the only contact that I have had, who has had the decency to reply. Kindest regards
This is a message for David Hodson and a lady named Christina. I emailed a while ago with a query regarding a problem I was given at university. I just wanted to tell them that because of their help I was able to do well on the assessment and I wanted to thank them profusely from my heart. Thank you so much to the two of them.
I accidentally linked in to your site this morning and was impressed. I am a Family Lawyer based ...
Thank you for your words of
Firstly, let me say how pleased I was to find the Divorce Aid web site. Having started with not a clue about divorce, it has really helped to focus my thinking on what will undoubtedly be an unpleasant process.
I have found your site extremely useful over the last three years. Thanks.
I have found your site by accident (looking for Barefoot Doctor body lotion....well it's a little treat), I have only read Divorce Thoughts...and I identified with so much of it.......and realised....there are load of us in the same boat...but it makes it easier if you pull someone struggling on to the life raft and help them survive the first awful months...My marital home is now sold and I move next week..I am at the end of this dark tunnel and I can feel the sun and smell the flowers...and I look forward to taking my children on our new adventure.....but it helps to know I am not alone in these feelings....Thank you and good luck.
The responses I received to my e-mails were written in a friendly and professional manner. I was provided with valuable advice on a specific financial issue, pointed in the direction of a local family law solicitor and I was particularly impressed by the speed of the responses. Thanks again and Kind Regards, Edward.
The Collaborative Law experience
has been incredible. We knew how much divorce can cost in terms of money
and stress and are so grateful that you pointed us towards this dignified
process. We feel as if we can carry on parenting as friends and have
not had to face each other in court. As it only took a few months, we
can now move on in a positive way. Thank you again. S & P.
See Collaborative Law
Thank you so much for your phone calls. I know what to do now and don't feel so lost. Thanks to all your team.
Any site that features my very favourite quote in the universe is going to catch my attention. And what a fabulous site!
I was so desperate when I sent
you my story by email and I was shocked and delighted to receive your
phone call a few minutes later. You have no idea how much this means
to me. I felt hopeless. I now look forward to your legal team's assistance.
Thank you so much for your swift
reply, and thank you for your kind words.
They mean so much.
My brother and I would like
to say that the website has been a
great source of information and guidance, I am so glad I clicked on it. This has been a very positive experience which is so helpful at this time of great anxiety. Bless you.
I found your site as a link from the Samaritan's
Web Site. Why was I on the Samaritans site? Looking for some hope as
I travel through the darkness of separation and divorce. I was so moved
after reading your "Divorce Thoughts" that I wanted to register
with your site. So much of the "Thoughts" were true for me
I am lucky with my support and that's why I am planning to do something positive to help others because I truly know how desperate those long dark nights can be.
Wow! Thank you so much for your wonderful help!!!
This is more than helpful, and you have been absolutely wonderful! Thank you very much!
Thank you so much again - just knowing that Divorce Aid exists is a real help in itself.
I called Mr Ferguson last night as you suggested and I would just like to say what a lovely man he is. Very kind and patient - he even said I could ring back at some point if I needed to.
In this day and age it is extremely rare for anything to be free and I really can't thank you all enough.
I have told all my friends about your site even though I hope they won't need you !
Thank you very much for this - my boyfriend and I
really appreciate it. I just wish I had known of your website when I
went through my own divorce a few years ago.
This kind of support and understanding is invaluable.
Thank you for taking the time
to read this. Dave
I enjoyed looking through your website. Thank you. Mac
Thanks for your understanding. Michael J
Thank you so much, it is so nice of you to have spent all this time on me. I will make an appointment asap and will let you know of the outcome. One more time thank you ever so much.
It is very heartfelt when someone helps you with information that can just make you realise you are not thinking normally. Thank you so much. You can not begin to imagine how much your communication is appreciated. Best regards and god bless you
Thank you so much for your replies to me - it
helps me feel connected with the universe! Despite the support I do
have, I still feel as though I need to 'pinch myself' - I think I am
still in a state of disbelief and shock inside.
I never had the slightest idea just how traumatic this process is.
Hi there, my name's Angela and I have been in contact with your office before with regard to leaving my abusive spouse. You helped me find a wonderful solicitor and provided a wealth of easily understandable information on your site and through very personal and encouraging emails.
I just wanted to let you know that things are now going well. Although it's obviously not completed yet, I feel that the hardest part is over and we're nearly there! With the support of my wonderful legal team and your unmatched clear information and support I feel that this has gone as well as possible with the minimum amount of upset to myself and my children. I wanted to personally and finally thank you for everything, and may many other people value your support as much as my family and I have.
Very kindest regards
and best wishes for your future
PS I am currently selling my wedding dress on eBay and will be forwarding the sale amount to you! (it's currently £52 lol) seems only right and quite an amusing way to raise funds for your site!!!!
Thank you for your prompt response and your kind assistance. I found the site by chance and am so glad I did. I found the tone gentle and reassuring and that is so important at such a traumatic time. The information has been presented in an uncomplicated way, again so important when it all seems so daunting!! I have spent quite a bit of time going through the various sections and cannot begin to tell you how reassuring I found it. Congratulations and thank you.
Thank you so much for the web site. It has given me great comfort and strength to go on. Anon.
Thank you so much. I really thought that there was nothing I could do, don't really know what else to say except thank you again. thank you. C
Thank you for your reply. I am pleased to tell you that we have managed to talk through the problems and difficulties we were experiencing and realised that divorce is not an option either of us wanted, especially with much loved children to consider. M
Many thanks for your support. I found the site very useful and informative. G
I was listening to BBC Radio 2 last night in the dark and a song was requested by one of your volunteers. I wrote the name down and searched this morning and found you straight away on Yahoo Search.
Really useful site. I so love the bits of the site for children and the separate sections for teens - my kids are my main worry at the moment. Just thought that you would like some feedback from a site user - a big thanks to all who thought of the idea and the volunteers who now run it.
Thanks for all your help - by the way the website is fantastic and has been a great help to me over the past 8 months - here's hoping to things working out okay from here.
Thank you so much for your incredibly efficient service.
You are just a mine of information. I am extremely grateful for all your help &would like to make a donation to your cause. F
I feel a bit better now that I will be able to see the solicitor. Thank you for caring. I am very grateful.
Thanks you so much for helping us with our son's problems. He feels much better and sends his thanks via us, his worried parents. Thank you all for caring when we had no-one to turn to.
Hi this is T..'s little sister thank u4 helping him. thank u
You are being a wonderful help and at the end of the day comfort does matter.
Thank you for your honesty.
Your reply has put a lump in my throat for 2 reasons , firstly because I never expected a reply and if I was getting one it would a standard type of letter acknowledgement, I simply recognised that your office must be too busy to give it a personal reply, I know you are busy but I'm so pleased you did. its appreciated . it has done me the world of good , thank you very much
Thanks to the site info I have in place a family law solicitor now sorting that side of things out.
I will get there.
All the very best.