Divorce Aid in the media

Divorce Aid goes from strength to strength and from country to country. We continue to receive frequent national media attention and inclusion in international family law resources.

It is good to reach the younger generation and our children's and teenagers' sections continue to be very popular and are used by teachers and the NHS. This year we helped 'Switch', broadcast on BBC2, Radio 1 and online with their video on parents' divorce. We thank the BBC for their support.

More recently, Christina has again been invited to the Relate annual lecture and has been writing for Bliss Magazine. Divorce Aid has been included in the Government National Archive for the 7th year as a history of social policy and family law.

The Singapore Courts have featured Divorce Aid in their website for children and our work is also featured in a wide variety of courses including GCSE, A-level and further education courses. Many public libraries now stock these course books and they are receiving interest from government agencies and lobby groups.

We have also featured in The Guardian, Life & Style,
'10 things you must tell your teenage girl'

Divorce Aid has also been consulted regarding a government project and a new book on international family law. Many publishing houses continue to send us their new publications for review and possible inclusion on the site.

The Divorce Aid Team and leading divorce solicitors assisted the BBC's The Big Questions and a BBC documentary on young women and divorce. As usual, we are assiting several national women's magazines on good content in family law.

Christina and Jill Curtis were invited by the Director BBC Children Television to a pre screening drinks party re CBBC Newsround and Christina was also invited as a guest of Relate to their second annual lecture by David Cameron.

Our work with Which? Magazine continues and they have published a Divorce Flyer with the help of Divorce Aid's Liz Tait, partner with Irwin Mitchell Solicitors. Their new book on divorce is also doing well and we are signposted.

David Hodson published his new book A Practical Guide to International Family Law, Jordan's Family Law,
ISBN 978 1 84661 094 3, and Christina attended the launch with Alexander Tait in July. Lord Justice Thorpe was the guest of honour. We are grateful to David for signposting our services. Waterstone’s also signposted us in their Guide to Kids’ Books.

Liz Tait was interviewed for research into financial inclusion by The Jospeh Rowntree Foundation. New Philanthropy Capital, the Joseph Rowntree Foundation and Runnymede Trust, with support from Friends Provident Foundation, invited Divorce Aid to a joint launch event to share the findings from their latest research into financial inclusion.

CAFCASS published new family leaflets and we are delighted to be highlighted as a source of advice and information. These are posted free of charge; please see our parents section for details but now unfortunately no longer printed but available as a download from us.

Many of our solicitors around the UK and abroad regularly step in to assist Divorce Aid's enquirers and these solicitors are regualr contributors to the national press and our News and Views section.

We are pleased to report that Deborah Jeff, the Family Partner with Seddons Solicitors in the West End is now the Sunday Times divorce expert.

We assisted with various television projects and have been interviewed by Orange and the teenage magazine, Sugar and also Bliss. We were also in a feature in the Sunday Express magazine.

And excellent news - we are in the new edition of the
Which? Guide to Divorce.

A web video on helping a friend through divorce is also ready and is raising a smile from lawyers. Watch Divorce Aid's video with Videojug. A very busy time. It has also been pointed out that our link appears below a nude photo of a model on Radio 1's Newsround site! We have assisted various health projects including the Great Ormond Street Hospital and featured on a BBC Wales billboard in Cardiff city centre..

We have been signposted once again from the BBC News website in relation to research into debt and divorce. We have also spoken to BBC Radio 4's PM programme and Law in action, BBC, Woman's Hour and Channel 4/BBC producers.

Channel 4, BBC2 and local radio have been appealing for case studies. For full details, please see our new Media section.

Here are links to some of the articles which have appeared in the media about us. We also feature in many magazines and numerous websites. We have been mentioned by Sky Breakfast News, BBC News, national and local radio including the Today Programme. Fox News in America has also shown interest.

April 2010
Divorce Aid rated in legal sector report by top SEO markeing firm as most visible family law website in the UK for natural search.

April 2010 Sunday Mirror/Homes section
Divorce Aid was interviewed and signposted from this article re women in their 50's divorcing and property problems.

Daily Express March 2010
Divorce soars for over 50's as wives seek 'new thrills'
Christina Tait, founder of advice website, stressed that a good divorce lawyer would consider pensions – which could be worth more than the house – in any settlement.

She urged women to keep up to date with any savings or investments made during their marriage, adding: “Divorce is easy but it’s finances that take the work.”

May 2009 The Guardian Life & Style
10 things you must tell your teenage girl

The teenage years can be a constant battle. Author Kaz Cooke reveals the essential information you should give your daughter to help you both survive and Divorce Aid is featured as No 4:

4. Talk openly about family problems
If you're in a family that is separating, it can be a turbulent time in which a teenager's questions and feelings are accidentally overlooked. I consulted a few experts about the ways families can keep up communication, and there are also some useful websites. Teens can try sites such as (click on teens) and Parents can get help from (the Children and Family Court Advisory Support Service).
See full article at Guardian/Divorce Aid

Daily Telegraph: Front page article
Today is the day when couples are most likely to have a row

Daily Mail:
Why are we all arguing now?

Financial Times:
Divorce brings home misery.

The Observer- Cash section:
Sorry I don't love you anymore but how can we afford a divorce?

Daily Mail - Financial Mail Women's Forum: Breaking up (the finances) is hard to do.

Daily Telegraph Interview with Social Affairs Correspondent:
Cost of divorce is keeping more couples together.

The Guardian
New rules mean that both sides will now be expected to cover their own legal costs, reducing the need to go to court.

The Times
A study by Divorce Aid

BBC News Desk
We are contacted by the BBC Newsdesk and are often signposted from their main news features on divorce. Getting divorced can increase the chances of an individual falling deeper into debt.

Government and HM Courts
We are signposted from the main Directgov site and from numerous sections of HM Courts Service.

Divorce Aid was featured on BBC3 News and we often assist researchers and producers.

Interview with the Press Association: Excerpts from article circulated to approx 100 local newspapers: Divorce Dilemmas

By Lisa Haynes, PA Features
He changed the locks on their home, she threatened to begin a new life in America with their daughter, and he froze their joint bank account. The press may be having a field day over Paul McCartney and Heather Mills McCartney's ongoing split stories, but the reality is sure to be nothing but painful for the parting couple. Whatever facts stand up in court, it's evident that the Mills-McCartney divorce has become increasingly messy. After four years of marriage, the gloves are off. The estranged spouses are preparing for one of the costliest divorces of all time, hiring the same divorce lawyers as Prince Charles and Princess Diana to fight their corner. The high profile pair's multi-million pound dispute may not match up to the average couple's settlement, but conflict can be all too common when divorce is on the cards.

The true cost of divorce isn't all about dividing assets - but it's important to know where you stand. Unfortunately, money is major factor for disagreement, according to Keenan. "Men in particular can feel aggrieved that the wife will get the larger share of the assets to house herself and the children, which can mean him not being able to get onto the property ladder for some time," he says. "When couples have average incomes and perhaps just a house and a few other assets, this can cause major headaches as there may not be enough to provide housing for both parties." The legalities of splitting assets during a divorce will depend on each individual situation. "The courts try and reach a position of equality but they also have to take into account the housing needs of the parties and their children, and their respective ability to earn income and raise capital," Keenan explains. "Obviously, if a mum has young children and only works part-time, she is going to get more of the assets than a father in full-time work."

As Heather Mills McCartney has shown with her plummeting weight loss in recent weeks, women often struggle to cope with the pressures of divorce. "The emotional fallout is similar for both men and women - but more women often have to contend with reduced financial means as well as the day-to-day care of children," says Christina Tait, founder of Divorce Aid, an organisation that helps people through the divorce process. "Women can struggle both emotionally and financially and in recent surveys, lone women with children report their main problems as financial hardship and loneliness." Even when children have flown the nest, divorce can deal a bitter blow to self-confidence. "In later life, the woman who has devoted herself to her family and does not have a career of her own can find the prospect of divorce and retirement to be very daunting," Tait says.

While some women gradually get out of bed feeling that a weight has been lifted from their shoulders following a split, for others, divorce can be devastating. "Get good legal advice and seek support from friends and family," Tait says. "Look after yourself - it is easy to forget to eat and sleep properly. Try to keep to a routine at home, especially if there are children, and don't become a social recluse. When you feel up to it, get out there again." Tait also advises using work as a way to escape your personal problems: "Keep your employer aware of your changing circumstances and when you need medical support, do visit your GP. Try not to involve work colleagues, instead see your place of work as a respite from your problems." So how long does the recovery from divorce take? Whether you're looking to embark on the dating market once again or unleash a brand new you, finding your single feet can take time. "The journey is different for each person," Tait says. "It could be months or years but it's a good sign when you start to think more about your future plans than things belonging to the past. "Look to building your self-confidence and other skills. New interests could mean a new set of friends. If you want to love again, try to meet people via your friends and interests but try not to be in a great hurry. You will know when you are ready."

Don't let your divorce get ugly. Tait has this advice on how to achieve an amicable split:

  • Plan ahead - read up on divorce law and see a family law solicitor to get preliminary advice about your rights and obligations.
  • Offer to attend counselling in order to bring the marriage to a peaceful closure. There can be many benefits when a couple try to talk things through in a professional and caring setting.
  • Prepare a short term plan - include finances and arrangements for children.
  • Take time and care to announce your decision to your spouse and then to the children. Call on family and friends afterwards for support.
  • Always try to keep talking with each other especially when children are involved. Keep discussions about finances and children separate. Be honest. Make allowances and try to agree as much as possible.

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