We all want to live without fear but it is only natural to be fearful when going through the divorce process whether you instigated this or not.
There are so many things happening to you but the partner you relied upon is probably no longer batting on your side and it is therefore time to take care of yourself.
Rhonda Britten's philosophy - as explained in a previous Channel 5's
'Life Doctor' series and her books, 'Fearless Living - Live without
Excuses and Love without Regret' and 'Fearless Loving' - could provide
a helping hand as you face up to your new responsibilities, whether
you are coping alone or establishing a new relationship.
Look in our Health Books section for details. 'Fearless Loving' is another great book featured Moving On Books
Rhonda says that fear confines you to the status quo
Fear gives you less permission to be you.
Freedom expands your sense of self.
Freedom gives you permission to fly.
Can you say 'yes' when you want to say 'yes' and 'no' when you want to say 'no'?
Can you be vulnerable, reach out for help, ask for support?
Can you walk away when you need to and forgive when you must?
Can you face this divorce with the very best you have to give?
Can you move on and learn from the past?
Can you be alone and not be lonely?
Can you strike up a conversation with anyone, anytime, anywhere?
Can you ask for a rise, go for a new job or start your own business?
Can you go where you want to go?
Can you be true to yourself moment by moment?
The divorce process gives you this chance, a fresh start.
You maybe did not want this or expect it but the positive opportunities it brings have to be grasped.
If you complain, that is fear.
If you make excuses, that is fear.
If you blame, that is fear.
If you are waiting for something, anything, to be the answer and change your life, that is fear.
If you isolate yourself, that is fear.
If you struggle, that is fear.
If you don't forgive, that is fear.
Look back at our Healing section
Rhonda says, In order to change any facet of our life, we first must become aware. Aware of our frustrations, unhappiness and disappointments. Aware of our desire to be more joyful, at peace and passionate. In order to see our lives "as is" and face the fears that have been stopping us, we must become aware. When we become aware, we can choose to change any area of our life.
When awareness transcends what we already know, we must be willing to think everything we thought was "right" may now be "wrong." With increased awareness, our heart and head are able to work together to bring us to a new fearless state of being. Without awareness, any shift or change would be called an accident, pure chance rather than a conscious choice. When we are aware, we can choose again, and again and again. Without awareness, we are at the whim of our moods. When we are aware, life becomes simple and simply ours.
How to move on
Of course, you are well within your rights to complain, blame and feel isolated for a time but Rhonda could show you how to abandon these feelings and move on as fear is both the cause and effect of the feelings, thoughts, or actions that prohibit you from accepting yourself and realising your full potential.
Fear stands between you and your ability to go anywhere you like, do anything you want, and meet anyone you please.
You are probably lacking in self-confidence at this difficult time but take time to examine yourself and what you really want.
So, when a new opportunity presents itself, can you
say 'yes' when you want to say 'yes' and 'no' when you want to say 'no'?
And if you aren't sure what to do, how do you decide?
So when you choose whether or not to go for a new venture, what is deciding:
Fear or Freedom?
Fearless living isn't about jumping out of planes, it's about
jumping into life.
Don't wait for the end of the divorce process to begin to do new things or change old ways.
Fearless Living is...
Freedom from fear.
Freedom from disappointment.
Freedom from not enough and expectations for choice and intention.
Expect the very best.
Amazon reviews on Fearless Living
It was my sister who put me onto Fearless Living. She had heard Rhonda Britten on the radio and as we were talking about me being afraid to do the things I really wanted to do in life, she remembered having heard Rhonda talk about fear. I went straight to Amazon and got the book. I was amazed; as I read the book it felt like Rhonda was talking to me personally. I had no idea how much fear had been a part of my life, it had literally been making my decisions. I now understand fear and have the tools to live from a place of freedom instead of fear. If you want to change your life get this book.
This book is brilliant! Easy step-by-step instructions that are helping
me make huge changes in my thinking and life. I was the ultimate negative
thinker, always saying 'I can't' and ' but...' I felt like life was
wrong, yet couldn't put my finger on it. Now I live in the present and
hear myself saying 'I can do that.'
Rhonda Britten's horrendous story really touched me (I cried when I read it.) She has put together the building blocks she used to overcome her experience and they apply to anyone who wants to overcome obstacles or make changes in their life, whatever the experience. Simple to follow on a daily basis, these steps have become part of my everyday life. I have more confidence and higher self-esteem than I've ever had and I now appreciate the lovely, little things that make my life what it is. If something is not quite right in life then this is a great book for self-discovery and permanent change.
'Feel the fear and do it anyway.' Susan Jeffers
"Anytime we blame anyone or anything for what is happening in our lives,
we are giving away all our power and our peace of mind.
If there is a hell on earth, living as a victim with feelings of anger and blame defines it. If there is a heaven on earth, living powerfully and lovingly as the creator of our own lives defines it."
Susan Jeffers, "The Little Book of Peace."