Unfortunately, divorce is not just about dividing up wealth. In many cases, the cause of a break up has been debt and this problem does not disappear on divorce. Many people are in debt because of many different reasons and often due to circumstances outside of their control. When you are in debt, you can feel out of control. Together with the divorce process, this can seem like a nightmare. But help is at hand to regain control. The first step towards regaining control is seeking out information and guidance.
'Success is 99 per cent failure.'
Soichiro Honda
WARNING
You may have come across companies who offer to sort out your debts for you on payment of a fee. As we have said, there is much professional advice freely available from debt professionals and any money paid out as a fee, would probably be better spent reducing the amount of your debt. You should be very careful when considering a company which charges as although they may say that they can make your creditors (the people you owe money to) write off part or all your debt, this is unlikely to happen unless your circumstances are very special indeed.
You must also be very careful when considering any offer to consolidate your debts. The hidden danger is that you could end up paying more or even lose your home as these loans are usually secured. This means that if you do not keep up payments, they will enforce the debt and you would probably have to sell your home. This of course could be worse than your original situation.
'Failure is delay but not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead-end street.'
William Ward
Where do I start?
Step one is to get all the details down on paper. This is the only way you can attempt to get a clear and accurate picture of your financial situation. The National Debtline provides excellent leaflets and professional advice which is a totally FREE service. They also provide a budget sheet with instructions about what to include. We don't think that there is any subject concerning debt that they have not included. Details are in our Who can help section. Consumer Credit Counselling Service (CCCS) can also advise you about debts and an appropriate course of action.
But my spouse is still creating more debt
If you fear that your spouse may make this situation worse, you should take steps to avoid this. Under normal circumstances, it is best to be able to discuss matters first but you must do your utmost to protect the family's financial position. You must realise that you are jointly liable for debts when you are both signatories. You can inform your spouse about what action you have taken and why. It may be best to do this straight away as any delay could lead to undue hardship, shock and resentment.
Joint accounts
If you have joint bank accounts, you could ask your bank to freeze these until you have reached a financial settlement. This, of course, could have repercussions as neither of you could draw on the accounts. Another way round this is to ask the bank to arrange for joint signatures to withdraw sums of money. You could also close the accounts and arrange for a certain sum of money to be paid to your spouse's personal account. This would perhaps be preferable, especially if you are the main earner and there are children.
Credit and store cards
If you are both joint holders of credit or store cards, it could be wise to take some action. If you were to cancel them completely, any money owing would then have to be repaid or you could cancel your spouse's authority to use the cards if you are the main card holder. Another option is to reduce the spending limit.
I'm afraid I can't pay my mortgage or rent
This is of course an urgent issue. The first thing to do is contact your mortgage lender or your landlord. If you do this by phone, make sure that you take down the person's name and then write to confirm what you have discussed. Always make sure that you make a copy of anything you send and try to keep correspondence in an orderly file. This will make matters easier. It is imperative that you never ignore any correspondence. When the lender or landlord is in possession of the details of your situation, he should be more willing to try and sort out some temporary arrangement with you. If he does not know the reason for non-payment and does not receive any reply from you, he could assume that you are just unwilling to pay the arrears and could then take legal action against you.
Take control
By contacting the agencies listed above through our links in the Who
can help section, you will be able to get information and advice on
an extensive range of subjects. This is not to say that someone will
do the work for you; you must be prepared to do all the paperwork and
phoning. But once you make a start, you are well on the way to regaining
some control in your life. Check out your bills, make a budget, get
advice and then make informed decisions. In our Who can help section,
we will also link you to an online debt support group. Sharing your
concerns and taking the first step to deal with debt can feel like a
great weight has been lifted form you. So, don't delay, make a start
today.
'If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got.'
Ralph W. Emerson
GOLDEN RULES
If you follow these golden rules, National Debtline says that you won't go far wrong.
Remember
The National Debtline is always there to help you with letters and forms,
and can explain what to do if you are asked to go to court.
See further details below.
'The discipline of writing something down could be the first step towards making it happen.'
L. Joccaca
Here we introduce you to Debt Advice Foundation, Consumer Credit Counselling Service (CCCS),
National Debtline, The UK Insolvency Helpline, and the CAB.
If you are in contact with any of these agencies, please say you found
them via Divorce Aid. Thanks. You will still need a solcitor's advice
asap. Please contact us for hands-on assistance.
Debt Advice Foundation
Debt Advice Foundation is a registered UK charity offering free, confidential support and advice on any aspect of debt and money management.
Debt Advice Foundation Helpline
Their helpline advisors are available:
Monday to Friday 8am to 8pm and
Saturday 9am to 5pm on 0800 043 40 50
Please mention Divorce Aid if you contact them.
Tools and guides
Users have free access to a range of tools and practical guides on how to manage money effectively, budget and negotiate directly with creditors. The charity's Self help tools section includes:
Budget Planner
Debt Analyser
Benefit Entitlement Checker
Money Management Guide
The charity has also developed an Education section, which is aimed at developing children's understanding of key financial principles and equipping them with the tools they'll need to responsibly interact with the world of finance as they enter adulthood.
Debt Advice Foundation Website
What is National Debtline?
National Debtline is a national telephone helpline for people with debt
problems in England, Wales and Scotland. Their service is free, confidential
and independent. They give expert advice over the telephone and send
callers in debt a self-help information pack called 'Dealing with your
debts' free of charge. This is an excellent self-help booklet and includes
the very useful budget planner. You will be asked whether you own your
home or rent it so that the correct pack can be sent to you. There is
also a different pack for those living in Scotland. They also produce
a set of 23 supplementary factsheets on specific topics which they send
out as appropriate.
If you need assistance with small business debts in England and Wales, then you can contact Business Debtline. Details are at the end of this article.
Their information pack is a comprehensive do-it-yourself guide which explains how to:
If your circumstances meet certain criteria, they could help you to set up a Debt Management Plan for you free of charge.
How do I contact National Debtline?
Freephone: 0808 808 4000 24 hour answerphone. Please leave a message to request an information pack.
You can also use this number to speak to a member of the Debtline team
Monday to Friday 9am to 9pm
Saturdays 9.30am to 1pm
Fax: 0121 703 6940
By Post: National Debtline, The Arch, 48 - 52 Floodgate Street Birmingham B5 5SL
Their website is excellent. You can:
Publications
Publications are free to individuals in debt. There is a charge to agencies and professionals of £5.00 per information pack and £18.00 for a full set of factsheets (minimum order £2).
To order, phone 0121 703 6913 or 0121 703 6914 or write to: National Debtline, The Birmingham Settlement, 318 Summer Lane, Birmingham B19 3RL. Invoices can be provided. There are discounts for bulk orders.
Here are the titles of some of the factsheets available:
Consumer Credit Counselling Service CCCS
If you have debt problems, you're just a few clicks away from expert advice that could help you get back on your feet and on with your life.
CCCS is a charity, so you won't pay a penny for any of their services - whether you need immediate debt advice tailored to your situation or more budgeting advice. Whatever money worries you're going through right now, chances are they can help you - just as they have done for all kinds of people before you. Take a look around and see what they can do for you.
Freephone helpline on 0800 138 1111 is open from 8am to 8pm Monday to Friday.
Website: www.cccs.co.uk/
Write to:
Consumer Credit Counselling Service
Wade House
Merrion Centre
Leeds
LS2 8NG
The UK Insolvency Helpline
It works closely with the voluntary money advice sector and other organisations.
It provides free, confidential and impartial debt advice and other support
and solutions to those who are experiencing debt problems. It can provide
continued personal support to you, assigning your to a case officer
who is readily available to help with problems or concerns that may
arise. This service is different to many others as it guides you from
the start to a definite end to your debts with continued counselling.
It is impartial, professional and free. It is paid by the companies
to which you owe money and no fee is added to your accounts.
Who can apply?
Those experiencing debt, money or credit problems in the UK. You can
either be a private individual or own a business. You can also be in
a business partnership and there is also a special section for students.
How do I apply?
A standard assessment form needs to be completed in the usual way and
sent to The UK Insolvency Helpline. On receipt they will contact you
directly and conduct a telephone assessment of your circumstances. Please
note that they will not leave a message if you do not take the call.
These are professional people and will try to maintain your privacy.
A strategy for addressing the problem would then be recommended. The
UK Insolvency Helpline will normally contact the member within a day
or two of the referral being made and it can sometimes be the same day.
Alternatively the business or individual may contact a caseworker directly
via the freephone number direct.
What does The UK Insolvency Helpline offer?
Freephone: 0800 074 6918
You can speak to someone, ask for someone to call you back or request
an information pack. This line is manned by trained staff from 8.30am
to 6.30pm Monday to Friday. Outside these times there is an answering
machine. Just leave your message or when requesting an information pack,
leave your full address clearly.
You can write to:
The UK Insolvency Helpline, Administration Centre, 788-790 Finchley
Road,
London NW11 7TJ
You can also email your request to info@insolvencyhelpline.co.uk
or
Fill in an online form with your details. Click on Financial form if
you are employed/PAYE.
A consultant should then contact you within 48 hours. For other forms,
please see the website
They have an interactive budget calculator to work out how much debt
you are inand debt to income ratio.
Insolvency
helpline website
Divorce Aid has worked with the UK Insolvency Helpline to produce
a campaign called Debt After Divorce. We have also set up another
website to help with debts and divorce. The UK Insolvency Helpline is
currently reviewing its training procedures on debt and divorce after
consultation with Divorce Aid. It is hoped that in the next five years
the campaign will not only raise awareness but also provide a better
service for those in debt due to a relationship failure. For
more details, use the following link, www.debt-after-divorce.co.uk/
We look at the following issues:
Citizens Advice Bureaux
For on-line advice and information, access the CAB Adviceguide website.
For free and confidential advice, search the CAB directory for your
nearest bureau. It includes advice by e-mail, text phone facilities,
details on languages offered and specialist services. CAB websites also
give information about local services. www.citizensadvice.org.uk
CAB give free, confidential, impartial and independent advice on a limitless range of subjects, including debt, benefits, housing, legal matters, employment, immigration and consumer issues. CABx are open to everyone regardless of race, gender, sexuality or disability. If you are seeking advice you can find on-line information at the CAB Adviceguide website. To contact your nearest CAB write, drop-in or telephone during opening hours. Some bureaux can offer advice by email if you are in their locality. CAB websites also give information about local services. CABx are only able to advise people who live in their local vicinity. Please try to contact the bureau which is nearest to you.
iVillage.com Debt Support Group
This is a forum for women if you are in debt and need emotional support
from a non-judgemental group of members. It is American, so the laws
over there will not apply to your case but this is a good place to air
your problems and chat. Joining this will make sure that you don't feel
so alone and talking online with a group will help you get to grips
with your situation. We shall keep you posted if the British site adds
this to their resources or you could alert us please.
See http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-mlsupport
Useful local services
You will find the following local agencies in your phone book:
Benefits Agency or Jobcentre Plus - see our Further help section
Law centres - these give legal advice on housing, welfare benefits, immigration and, sometimes, debt. These centres are not available in all areas; check www.lawcentres.org.uk for more details.
Welfare rights agencies - these are usually part of gov.uk websites. Example is www.camden.gov.uk
There is a lot of free and professional help available but you must make the first step. Ask for help from any of the agencies above. Please kindly mention Divorce Aid.
'How can you say luck and chance are the same thing? Chance is the first step you take, luck is what comes afterwards.'
Rudyard Kipling