As well as the normal healthcare services he can provide, your doctor may be able to refer you to a counsellor on the NHS. A health visitor could provide a valuable service to families. Other helpful services could be available and each practice is different but your doctor needs to know about your change in circumstances. Please have a look at our Health section.
Tel: 020 8514 1177. This is a confidential crisis helpline and is available Monday to Friday 10am to 4pm and from 7pm to 10pm. It is run by the Cardinal Heenan Centre in Ilford. This is a very busy line.
The Asian Family Counselling Service
This agency provides trained counsellors for Asian or part Asian families. It deals with many problems including those encountered in divorce. Counselling sessions are provided free of charge on weekdays starting at 10am, with the last session beginning at 4pm.
Other appointments may be available and charges can be discussed.
Tel: 020 8571 3933.
The Asian Family Counselling Service, Suite 51, The Lodge, Windmill Place,
2-4 Windmill Lane, Southall, Middlesex UB2 4NJ
Michael Lord Counselling: when you need a helping hand in the Salford and Wigan area
'I came to counselling relatively late in life having previously worked for fourteen years as a solicitor before giving up that career to bring up my children. As they grew older I decided I needed to re-train. The experiences in my life lead me to counselling.'
Michael agrees with Divorce Aid in that he believes counselling really can make a difference to a person’s life.
As he says on his lovely website,
' Sometimes we find ourselves a long way from where we want to be. Our lives are not turning out the way we expected them to or how we planned. Life just keeps on chucking bad stuff at us and we get to the point where we don’t know the way forward or sometimes we simply stop being able to cope.
Let me help you. '
Michael offers the first session comletely free and with no obligation whatsoever. Divorce Aid is very happy to recommend this sympathetic and caring professional. Call him on
07813 980971 or email him at
Jewish Marriage Council
This organisation promotes Jewish marriage and family life within a Jewish environment. It strives to support the family in a positive way in an age where separation and divorce are on the increase. With over 30 years experience in counselling, JMC's professional counsellors are there to help you and no-one is ever turned away for financial reasons. Their doors are always open. Their motto is, 'When you don't know who to turn to, you can turn to us.'
So if you need help with your relationship, no matter at which stage, telephone their national appointments line on 0845 7 585 159. Calls are charged at local rate. If you are in touch with them, please say you found them via Divorce Aid. Their website can be accessed at: www.jmc-uk.org
Miyad (Hebrew for immediate) is a crisis helpline run by JMC. Whatever the crisis, phone 0845 7 581 999.
It is open Monday to Thursday from 12 noon to midnight, Friday 12 noon to one hour before Shabbat and, during winter, it is open on Saturday nights from one hour after Shabbat until midnight. (Volunteers are kindly requested to contact JMC )
Dialogue is a mediation service provided by JMC for help with sorting out the practical problems of separation and divorce. (See our Sections on Legal and Financial Aid). All mediators are trained by the Family Mediation Association as well as being on the Jewish Family Mediation Register. For more information on how Dialogue can help you, please phone 020 8203 6315
Important information about obtaining a Get
For every Jewish person considering divorce, a civil divorce is not enough. A Get is essential. In Jewish law, marriage and divorce laws apply to all Jews, irrespective of religious conviction. Without a Get, a Jew may not be able to remarry within the Jewish faith. It will have serious implications for both parties and their future families. It is therefore in the best interests of all concerned to obtain a Get.
Angela Gardner has sent us an article:
As we are caught up in thoughts of divorce, perhaps we could spend a few minutes pondering the following lines. No matter what is going on in our lives, reflection and gratitude should not be forgotten.
We wish you enough
At an airport I overheard a conversation at a boarding gate. The elderly woman said to her brother, 'Our life together has been more than enough. Your love has always been there for me. I wish you enough.' They kissed goodbye and she left. He turned to me and said, 'Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?''Yes, I have,' I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love and appreciation for all my grandfather had done for me. Recognising that his days were limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me. So I knew what this man was experiencing.
'Forgive me for asking, but why is this goodbye for ever?' I asked. 'I am very ill and she lives too far away. I probably won't see her again,' he said. 'When you were saying goodbye I heard you say, 'I wish you enough'. May I ask what that means?' He began to smile. 'That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.' He paused a moment and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he smiled even more.
When we said 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other person
to have a life filled with enough good things to sustain them. He continued
and then, turning toward me, he shared the following as if he were reciting
it from memory:
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
We hope that the pain you may be feeling will soon be gone and replaced with loving thoughts once more. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but years to forget them. And we can never really truly forget part of our life.
Reach out to someone you care for at this demanding time and let them know how much you appreciate them.
We wish you enough.